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Wednesday, September 26, 2012
NATIONAL INSTITUTE FOR OPEN SCHOOLING- ADVT
Sunday, September 23, 2012
MARRIAGE AND MENTAL ILLNESS
The association between marriage and mental illness is multi-faceted.
Mental illnesses often affect persons who are single or of a marriageable age. In India, marriage is regarded as a panacea for psychological disorders. Some patients may feel better off after marriage because of the enhancement of social status and the companionship. But marriage is NOT therapeutic for mental illness. Mental illness requires treatment first, and then one can think of marriage.
Even after recovery from mental illness, the question of marriage is a vexing one. Marriage can be thought of, only if the person is fit for marriage and is desirous of marriage. Relatives should make sure that these two criteria are met with, before thinking of finding a match. It is fairly easy to determine the desire for marriage- one needs to simply ask the person. Dont ever force the marriage, if the person is not willing. A person is determined to be fit for marriage only if he or she can be emotionally and sexually involved with the marital partner.
Mental illness has a significant stigma. Even if the person has recovered completely from mental illness, he/ she will find it very difficult to get married upon declaring the fact of mental illness. Inspite of this fact, I always recommend that one should declare before marriage about the mental illness. This is legally essential- marriage is a contract, and cannot be entered into on a false premise. The other party can easily get divorce as a technically 'insane' person is not allowed to enter into a contract. Morally, it is not right to hide such a critical piece of information from your future life partner. Practically, it is dangerous for the patient because it may lead ot abuse, abandonment and worsening of health condition. Still, I admit that I have come across cases where the spouse continued with the marriage even after discovering about the mental illness. In most cases, this was not a happy marriage.
Persons with mental illness often recover sufficiently enough to be able to make good spouses. While evaluating a person with mental illness as a life-partner, one should consider the type of mental illness, effect on the personality, severity of mental illness and the family history. If you are satisfied that the person is loveable, responsible, in good health and taking medicines regularly and responsive to you- there should be no major problem for getting married. You need to sit with a medical expert to determine the risk of heritability of the mental illness and impact on unborn child of the illness and medicines, as you may want to think of starting a family with this person.This scenario is applicable if you have found someone nice, then discovered about the mental illness and want to take an informed decision.
If you have a mental illness and want to get married, make sure you have all the imformation about your condition and medicines. Take treatment very regularly and dont allow your mental illness to increase. Cultivate a healthy lifestyle free of alcohol, drugs, sleep-deprivation and learn all measures for stress-management. Ask yourself whether you genuinely feel interested in the other person emotionally and sexually? Are you sexually capable? Will you be able to give consideration to the other person? Do you have the resources needed to establish a new family and maintain it? Take the help of your doctor to find these answers. If you are not found to be fit for marriage, then pursue to goal of fitmess and then only act on your desire for marriage.
A stable and happy marriage improves the quality of life of any individual. But marriage is not a form of treatment. Persons with mental illness should not be shunned from marriage. At the same time, marriage is not a one-way street. It is not about as about organising a legitimate care-taker for the person with mental illness. Life has many possibilities. It is important to take one step at a time, be well-informed and insightful and also have a positive attitude.
Mental illnesses often affect persons who are single or of a marriageable age. In India, marriage is regarded as a panacea for psychological disorders. Some patients may feel better off after marriage because of the enhancement of social status and the companionship. But marriage is NOT therapeutic for mental illness. Mental illness requires treatment first, and then one can think of marriage.
Even after recovery from mental illness, the question of marriage is a vexing one. Marriage can be thought of, only if the person is fit for marriage and is desirous of marriage. Relatives should make sure that these two criteria are met with, before thinking of finding a match. It is fairly easy to determine the desire for marriage- one needs to simply ask the person. Dont ever force the marriage, if the person is not willing. A person is determined to be fit for marriage only if he or she can be emotionally and sexually involved with the marital partner.
Mental illness has a significant stigma. Even if the person has recovered completely from mental illness, he/ she will find it very difficult to get married upon declaring the fact of mental illness. Inspite of this fact, I always recommend that one should declare before marriage about the mental illness. This is legally essential- marriage is a contract, and cannot be entered into on a false premise. The other party can easily get divorce as a technically 'insane' person is not allowed to enter into a contract. Morally, it is not right to hide such a critical piece of information from your future life partner. Practically, it is dangerous for the patient because it may lead ot abuse, abandonment and worsening of health condition. Still, I admit that I have come across cases where the spouse continued with the marriage even after discovering about the mental illness. In most cases, this was not a happy marriage.
Persons with mental illness often recover sufficiently enough to be able to make good spouses. While evaluating a person with mental illness as a life-partner, one should consider the type of mental illness, effect on the personality, severity of mental illness and the family history. If you are satisfied that the person is loveable, responsible, in good health and taking medicines regularly and responsive to you- there should be no major problem for getting married. You need to sit with a medical expert to determine the risk of heritability of the mental illness and impact on unborn child of the illness and medicines, as you may want to think of starting a family with this person.This scenario is applicable if you have found someone nice, then discovered about the mental illness and want to take an informed decision.
If you have a mental illness and want to get married, make sure you have all the imformation about your condition and medicines. Take treatment very regularly and dont allow your mental illness to increase. Cultivate a healthy lifestyle free of alcohol, drugs, sleep-deprivation and learn all measures for stress-management. Ask yourself whether you genuinely feel interested in the other person emotionally and sexually? Are you sexually capable? Will you be able to give consideration to the other person? Do you have the resources needed to establish a new family and maintain it? Take the help of your doctor to find these answers. If you are not found to be fit for marriage, then pursue to goal of fitmess and then only act on your desire for marriage.
A stable and happy marriage improves the quality of life of any individual. But marriage is not a form of treatment. Persons with mental illness should not be shunned from marriage. At the same time, marriage is not a one-way street. It is not about as about organising a legitimate care-taker for the person with mental illness. Life has many possibilities. It is important to take one step at a time, be well-informed and insightful and also have a positive attitude.
Monday, September 3, 2012
MENTALLY HEALTHY
The following things have been found to greatly help in preserving mental health
1. Good genes with low vulnerability to mental and physical disorders
2. Good physical health
3. Average or below average stress in life
4. Absence of any addictions
5. Regular moderate exercise
6. Regular work
7. Adequate sleep
8. Opportunity for leisure and recreation
9. Good relationships
10. Positive attitude
1. Good genes with low vulnerability to mental and physical disorders
2. Good physical health
3. Average or below average stress in life
4. Absence of any addictions
5. Regular moderate exercise
6. Regular work
7. Adequate sleep
8. Opportunity for leisure and recreation
9. Good relationships
10. Positive attitude
Saturday, September 1, 2012
CENTRAL GOVERNMENT SCHOLARSHIP FOR DISABLED STUDENTS
VOLUNTARY WORK
This is a list of NGO s working for specific causes. It is a resource for persons who want to do voluntary wor; so I have scanned this list from a newspaper and putit up here.
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